Why live in the past and not in the present!

Dear Friends,

Greetings to all!  

Well just felt like sharing with you all, about experiences of living in the past.  As most of us do (well I do sometimes) and we need to get out of it and come into the present to lead a better life.  We all have pasts (most pasts are ugly, some are uglier than others but of course some have, do have good past but why live in the past as it is gone and done with), we must not make the past a burden and not carry the baggage along with us and for how long!

Dwelling in the past, hanging it around your neck and walking about with it does not only steal the beauty of today, it stops you from living your life, enjoying the moment and making the best use of opportunities that come your way because you’re afraid that the past might repeat itself.

With that goal in mind, consider this list of tips below to start living your life in the present:

Remove unneeded possessions. … - Smile. …  - Fully appreciate the moments of today. …  -  Forgive past hurts. …  Love your job. …  Dream about the future, but work hard today. …  Don't dwell on past accomplishments. …  Stop worrying - yes we need to stop as that hinders our present ….

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.” – Henry David Thoreau.

Please do not let the past steal your present - You must live in the present; dwelling in the past makes you fear and thinking too much of the future makes you anxious of things that may never happen. These feelings rob you of real life, and might cause you to miss out on it entirely.

Free yourself from the fear of the past and the anxiety over the future, and LIVE. Live in the present, learn, love, laugh, take chances, try again and keep growing. The past is gone and will never come back, but the future belongs to you…only if you live today.

You must also try your best and I am sure you will succeed just learn to Ignore the PAST.

There are ways to try and move away from the Past. Try to Communicate your feelings about the past. Worrying yourself sick about the past does not change a thing. What changes things is what you do with what you have – the present. If there’s a feeling from the past that has been weighing you down, talk about it to someone you trust. You’ll find that expressing your feelings helps you overcome the fear associated with it. I have found that talking about the past even to myself, or to the person involved, helps me overcome the past and feel much better.

You must also learn to Let go of if you have been hurt? Not forgiving imprisons you, while the person who has hurt you lives free because most times they do not know they have hurt you. Talk about how you feel with that person and forgive truly. Let it go completely. What happened has happened and belongs to the past. Leave it there and live on.

Learn to keep your mind on joyful moments!  If talking about the past does not help you rise above it, try relishing the thoughts of wonderful events of the past, couple that with thoughts on happy moments of today. Consciously keep your mind on these things and the past will not have a hold on you.

Also please you must remove possessions that tie you to the past. If there are items hanging on the wall, or lying around the house, that remind you of bitter past events, you should get rid of them. Put them somewhere you can’t reach easily or destroy them. Replace them with photos of happy moments or posters that fill your heart with good thoughts.  Surely you must be having good happy moments of the past too.  It is not always necessary that the past is bitter.

There is also another way to get yourself out of the past, try and get help.  Getting help does not mean you are mentally disoriented which most of us feel when told to get help. These counsellings do help. If what you had was a traumatic event in the past, this usually takes some time of confiding in someone and getting help from a professional to heal. Don’t bottle it up and don’t try to fight it alone. Share it, seek help and keep working on it. You’ll be fine.

We must live in the present as we need to leave the past and not cling onto it. Appreciate life and live in the moment. Take a walk at the park, look around you, consider the trees, the birds, the structures, the smiling faces, kids running about, and so on. Take some time to dwell on and appreciate the things and events around you, don’t just rush through life and trap yourself in the past.

If you still are able to work then try and get a job you love or love the job you have. We sell our today to both yesterday and tomorrow. If not, start looking for something that will give you happiness, something you’d love.

To live in the present, you must spend that time doing what you love with people you love, the past will not change; the future will happen whether or not we worry. So why not put away worry and enjoy today. Work and play and watch a beautiful tomorrow emerge. Take life one moment, one thing at a time. Don’t work yourself out.

Plan your days and take life one moment, one task at a time, and enjoy the results. To conclude, the essence of life is love. You can really enjoy and live in the moment by extending a hand of love to someone every day.

Make others happy and you’re not far away from happily living in the present.

Parsan  Narang

29th November 2016