WHAT DO PEOPLE GAIN BY HAVING ATTITUDE, ARROGANCE AND EGO TOWARDS OTHERS

Dear Friends,

Greetings!!  In our daily lives we tend to come across people from all walks of live.  Some may be very close to us whom we understand well but at the same time we do meet people whom we do not know so well but can feel that they are full with either attitude, arrogance and ego.  How do we differentiate what is what and put them in which category. But of course, who are we to put anyone in any category, but at the same time it makes it easier for us to make us decide whether to continue to be just friends with them and then maybe slowly move away. So given below are few points and you can decide for yourself.

Cheers!!

WHAT DO PEOPLE GAIN BY HAVING ATTITUDE,  ARROGANCE AND EGO TOWARDS OTHERS

What is the difference between confidence, ego, arrogance and attitude?

 Confidence is when you believe in yourself and your abilities, and not much concerned about others because you know where you stand.

Ego is about rating yourself highly to a point where you think you have qualities only you think you deserve to have and no one else.

Arrogance is someone who portrays confidence and pride, feels others are socially inadequate compared to him/her and feels other people's opinions carries little weight.

Arrogance is a virtue that can kill your opportunities and networks almost certainly. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and I am sure everyone knows someone who shares either of these qualities; perhaps you yourself have been accused of exhibiting this attitude.  Being confident isn't the problem, the problem arises when confidence isn't expressed in a proper manner.

Those people couldn’t be more wrong; cocky arrogance is usually presented in a loud and egocentric way that doesn't permit dialogue. So, be more careful on how you express yourself and also how you judge someone who is sharing his or her experiences. You tend to be more close-minded, do more talking and less listening. You think you are always right. You were given one mouth and two ears for a reason; listening can help you learn while talking won't give you any gains.  Arrogance will kill your opportunities for many reasons.

A second opinion on something doesn't make you less able; it shows you know the value of teamwork, and it shows your humility, both which are qualities many people value and search for.  No one wants to be around cocky people unless he or she wants something from you. It will suck to one day wake up and realize you are alone.True arrogance can show a lack of worldly knowledge and insecurities.

Arrogance means “bigging yourself up”— often it involves knocking others down at the same time. Arrogance, like all character flaws, is inherently negative. The positive outcome of arrogance is PRIDE, while the more negative outcomes can be referred to as VANITY –

Arrogance is when you have a big ego.  Leave Your Ego At The Door!

Remember, confidence is quiet and insecurities are loud. Always be modest and humble; it will get you further in life. It is understandable people like to brag and talk about themselves, but there comes a point where it gets annoying and offensive.  First time impressions are everlasting, and sometimes, you never get a second chance.

We are all constantly learning and growing and every person has his or her strengths and weaknesses. Listening allows you to learn, making your knowledge library that much more impressive. Arrogance limits your capabilities and growth potential, so don't let it be your downfall. Be better than that.

Get Over Yourself: How Your Ego Sabotages Your Creativity

An inflated ego can surface in the most subtle ways. Know the difference between confidence and arrogance so you can do your best creative work - Todd Henry

One of the most destructive of creative sins is an over-inflated ego. When an inflated ego becomes the norm, you may become inflexible and unwilling to take the small personal risks necessary to break out of your comfort zone and pour yourself fully into your work. This is obviously a recipe for underperformance, so be aware of these hidden ego-fueled dangers that can come with creative work.

There is a vast chasm between confidence in your abilities. Ego says “I can do no wrong”, whereas confidence says “I can get this right.” Confidence says “I’m valuable” while ego says “I’m invaluable.” This is a critical difference in mindset.

For sure, there is a right and a wrong way to deliver criticism. The correct response to poorly delivered criticism isn’t to get offended, it’s to offer a helpful suggestion on how you’d like to receive feedback in the future.

Yes, be confident, but also be adaptable. Pour yourself fully into your work, but be willing to listen to disconfirming information and opinions.

But the sad and simple truth is, if you carry all three combined, you will go far in life, you will get the jobs, the social life and partners, whether you deserve them or not is different.

Attitude:

There are many a times we do say that this person has an attitude.  We generally say this when we observe the way she or he behaves or talks.  They like to be told many a times not to show attitude as they always feel they are in the right and can do no wrong or for instance sometimes we call her / him “Miss or Mr. know all”.  It can also be said that having attitude means being proud.  

Attitude can be used in the following way both in sense of good or bad:

• He has a positive attitude about the changes.
• She's friendly and has a good attitude.
• You need to change your bad attitude.
• There's been a change in his attitude since his accident.
• I don't know what her problem is. She has a real attitude.

Parsan Narang

9th June 2016